Blog: Factoids for Distractoids
What “The Sound of Music” Can Teach the World about ADHD
How do you solve a problem like Maria? Well, get her some ADHD Coaching and a prescription for Adderall. But what do I mean by that? First let me backup a little to talk about the genesis of this idea. As a person with ADHD and also as an ADHD Coach, I find the...
9 Signs ADHD Is Under-Treated or Not Under Control
Is life making you crazy? Are you feeling out of sorts and unable to accomplish simple tasks? I have identified 9 indicators ADHD is under-treated or not under control and significantly damaging the effectiveness and quality of your life or of someone you love. The...
ADHD and Life Expectancy
My Fellow Distractoids, Before October comes to a close and we wrap up ADHD Awareness Month, I’d like to make you aware of something pretty stark. According to a 2018 study by Dr. Russell Barkley, a leading ADHD researcher, ADHD reduces life expectancy by...
3 Signs of ADHD Damage in Relationships
My Fellow Distractoids, In the previous blog post, I talked about 3 Signs You Need Support for ADHD. Today, I want to share with you 3 Signs of ADHD Damage in Relationships. The divorce rate for people with ADHD is double than for non-ADHDers. That’s almost too much...
3 Signs Your ADHD Needs Attention
My Fellow Distractoids, October is ADHD Awareness Month, so I’d like to make you aware of something: I recently launched a new web site, which looks and works much better than the original version. The address remains ADHDTraction.com. Check it out. Three...
Negative Self-Perception and Rejection
My fellow Distractoids -- Are you down on yourself? Are you constantly telling yourself what an ugly, horrible, no-good person you are? What about rejection? Does rejection (and perhaps perceived rejection) throw you for a loop? Do you stay in your comfort zone to...
ADHD Kryptonite
My Fellow Distractoids, Let me guess. There are certain tasks in your life the doing of which causes a feeling of major mental resistance, physical weakness, deep annoyance, resentment, frustration, anger, and pain. There’s a name for this collection of tasks: ADHD...
The Benefits Of ADHD Coaching
My Fellow Distractoids, Studies show that coaching is very effective in helping people with ADHD minimize the harmful effects of the condition. For instance, a recent ADDitude Magazine study showed that it was the most effective treatment besides exercise: i.e. more...
The ADHD Tax
My Fellow Distractoids, One main attribute of an unreconstructed Distractoid is frequent payment of the “ADHD Tax.” Masters of Distraction (MODS), on the other hand, rarely have to pony up to “The Man.” At this point you might ask, “What the hell is the...
Chronic Overwhelm: 8 Ways To Address It
My Fellow Distractoids, Are you living in a state of Chronic Overwhelm? That’s when the tasks of normal life — not some acute, temporary situation like losing your keys, phone, and wallet all on the same day — are too much to manage. It’s when our executive functions...
The Thoughts in Your Head
My Fellow Distractoids, What do you notice about the content of the thoughts in your head? Are they nice, serene, calming, compassionate, balanced, good-natured, kind, forgiving, wise, and full of gratitude? Didn’t think so! Distractoids don’t see the thoughts in...
ADHD and Mindfulness
My Fellow Distractoids, Are you scattered, overwhelmed, prone to losing things, forgetful, frequently late, and impulsive? Are the voices in your head a confusing jumble of intrusive thoughts that drive you nuts? Distractoids are plagued by by all of these ADHD...
Getting A Big Picture Of Life
My Fellow Distractoids, Do you have a “Big Picture” of life? Distractoids live almost solely in the moment, their chaotic, disjointed lives shaped by passivity, reactivity, and impulsivity. Masters of Distraction have learned to see what they want the Big Picture of...
ADHD and the Challenge of Agreements
My Fellow Distractoids, Do you find that you make agreements that you don’t keep? That you let people down or make them angry when you drop the ball or don’t follow through? That your word is not quite your bond? It’s important for ADHDers and their friends and...
ADHD Treatment Poll: Popularity and What Works
My Fellow Distractoids, This is a little different post than usual. ADDitude Online Magazine polled 4,000 of its readers on ways they cope with ADHD and what they find most effective. There are a lot of interesting findings. Most effective: exercise and coaching...
Agreements versus Expectations
My Fellow Distractoids -- The series on communication continues this week with the crucial topic of expectations and agreements. Understanding expectations and agreements is fundamental to anyone who wants to maintain loving and harmonious relationships. It’s even...
Breaking the Pattern: A Statement from the Heart
My Fellow Distractoids, Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is considered by many to be a good definition of insanity. If that’s the case, many a Distractoid is insane. Two aspects of ADHD “time blindness” have to do with...
Communication: Listening (and Talking)
My Fellow Distractoids, When it comes to communicating with loved ones, Distractoids can struggle mightily as they allow deep ruts of dysfunctional behavior to form and persist. Unless there is change, those relationships will either fail or continue indefinitely to...
ADHD Relationship Dysfunction: Wiping the Slate Clean
My Fellow Distractoids, Let’s say you are in relationship that is unhappy and that’s maybe been unhappy for a long time. You and your significant other know you need to do something major to repair the damage and reset the course, but you don’t know how to break the...
Communication: Seeing Destructive Patterns
My Fellow Distractoids,* Are you and a loved one living too much (or all) of the time in a negative feedback loop of reactivity and anger? Are you living in a relationship where there is chronic anger and stress? Today I want to talk about a common pattern found in...
Getting the Support You Need
My Fellow Distractoids, For a solo Distractoid* facing all the demands of life, just getting by can feel overwhelming. The results of going it alone: stress, frustration, anxiety, demoralization, and feelings of isolation and failure. That’s not good. Getting the...
Proactivity
My Fellow Distractoids, Distractoids* live reactively. They’re in a reactive “mode” almost all the time. Life is about scrambling to keep up. Keeping up with the daily tasks of life. And keeping up with an unconscious image of who they think other people want them...
Getting a Life
My Fellow Distractoids, Do you hate yourself for wasting your talent, squandering your potential, and being stuck wondering why you can’t seem to “get a life?” Lots of Distractoids* suffer from “lifelessness.” What would it be like to “have a life” that feels right? A...
Recently Diagnosed
My Fellow Distractoids, As a recently diagnosed adult -- a newly-minted Distractoid taking step one on the path to becoming a Master of Distraction (MOD) -- how do you cut through the fog of fuzzy information -- and misinformation -- and get a handle on how to handle...